Day 99 - Becoming, unapologetically

 Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself. Go forward and make your dreams come true ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

A big step toward obtaining your goals and dreams is acknowledging and reframing your own thoughts - thoughts create our realities, but most people don't even hear the nasty things they tell themselves, and if they do, they believe them. So, this first step is requisite to understanding your responsibility - the control of your own thoughts and feelings.

So now, what about other people and the things they tell you about going after your dreams?

"It's never going to work." 

"That's a bad idea."

"Are you serious?"

You can simply not tell others about your dreams, and that's fine - but, that also means you are not fully involved in creating a reality where those around you are supporting you. After awhile, when your decisions have outward results, there is no longer a way to hide, eventually, you will have to confront these people.

Go after your dreams, unapologetically. Do not succumb fully to the feeling of being small around those whose automatic response is putting down what you aspire to and scoffing at where you are going and who you think you are. Many people will cover up their distaste about your goals with condescension - coming across like they know more than you do. How could anyone else possibly know more than you do about where you are going and what you are doing? It's a sure sign that those people are not involved in creating their own dreams and it makes them upset to see when others are actually doing it, because it means they can, but they don't know how. It's a way of projecting their own inabilities on to you.

A good way to deal with the situation of others' telling you it can't be done is to feel what it is to become small in the presence of naysayers. That feeling of unworthiness is important because it is something you must also have inside you somewhere, or you wouldn't be affected - the naysayer simply brings it out of you. No response at that time is a good response. Feeling your own unworthiness creates the space to release it - And then, when that person again, or someone else, puts you down (whether purposefully or mistakenly) you will be able to respond with a voice so powerful that they have no choice but to believe you, or else remove themselves from any further need to squash you. Better yet, they come away with the idea that they can also go after their own dreams, unapologetically.

A smile, a nod of recognition, direct eye-contact, and/or a simple statement of positive self-reinforcement is all it takes to stop others from continuing to tell you all the ways it can't be done. 

That deep, powerful breath occurring when you've set yourself up for success is a sign that you're done with excuses and apologies, not only to yourself, but to all those who would try to keep you from it.

This whole thing is another indication of the law of attraction - confronting people in your life who do not support you means you are also confronting your own doubts. Being able to effectually reason creates the path required to continue towards your dreams.

 

 

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