New Becomings

Many people have self-sabotage down to an art form - like, if that amount of creative energy was put into actually building something great, there would be SO MANY GREAT THINGS! Alas, many people don't feel they deserve great things, at least not the greatest of things, maybe just a bit of great, and even then there's probably something that will come along and take it away, so best be prepared for the worst. Self-sabotaging behaviour is based on things like low esteem, limiting beliefs, the imposter syndrome, and/or plain laziness. It is ingrained so deeply, a lot of folks will say, "No way, that's not me.", and then list off all the reasons they haven't accomplished the great things they would like, or why they're not moving towards great things. Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn't happen ~ Alyce Cornyn - Selby Yet we try , and something always comes along to mess it up. Is it possible that we are a...

“Better guilt than the terrible burden of freedom and responsibility.” ― Ernest Becker,  The Denial of Death Death, no one wants to think about it - there's too much life to live. Mortality is as significant as being born. Cultural anthropologist, Ernest Becker, wrote a book called The Denial of Death - a gripping read involving some of the greatest minds in history and their ideas on how humans are psychologically/philosophically burdened and motivated by the fear of death. The Tibetan Book of the Dead is about the art of dying, an entire process of recognizing and supporting dying people; how to help them consciously transition by reading the text aloud after they've gone.  I attended a Death Doula seminar, which also is about aiding people in the weeks before passing from this world to the next (this one, and the one we don't remember, the bardo beyond). It is also about comforting families and friends with practical knowledge and space. It is a subj...

Manipulators don't question themselves - there's always someone else to blame. There are people who manipulate circumstances to engineer their lives. There are others who manipulate people because they can't or don't know how to manage their own circumstances. The difference here is an insight into recognizing people around you who are using you, your circumstances, your family and/or friends, and people around you who are sincerely interested in you as a benefit to their lives, and in return a benefit to yours. It took me a long time to discern the difference, and in the process, learn how to let go of people who were in my life for the wrong reasons, eliminating drama and wasted time over dealing with all their problems - because that is what exploiters will produce in your life: issues.  Those of us who are highly empathetic are huge targets. We are on the side of life that truly wants everyone to do well and are willing to help others achieve their own success, but ...

The elephant in the room lately is the business structure behind a product I am now using and promoting - the dreaded Multi-Level Marketing business model.  Here's my response. Pursuing your dreams is dangerous! But so is not pursuing your dreams. I have had various dreams over my lifetime so far, and achieved many of them. I am in a place completely fulfilled by family, friends, home comforts, life in a northern paradise, creativity... But dreams don't end when you achieve them, you just dream bigger. I have partnered with an MLM company because of one product, a homeopathic bio-identical HGH transdermal Gel - it is the only one of its kind in the world (no competition). I was indeed skeptical at the beginning when trying it, especially because of the business structure, but I've been using it for 3 months and it has proven its worth to me. This is a product I will be using for as long as I live - I'm considering it a necessary addition to my well-being, like healthy f...

 To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved ~ George MacDonald I used to be a flake. I never really thought of that as a disadvantage, in fact, I used to joyfully explain to people just how flakey I was! This is because there are some good qualities within it - like, spontaneity, being easy-going with the flowing, living in the now... Let's look at that last one, "living in the now" - it's been propped up for a long time within many philosophies, creeds and new-age dogma. Being present fully is indeed a blessing, but is it such a blessing when you back-out of promises you made because you just don't feel like doing that thing a few days or weeks later? Why did you make a promise that you truly intended to keep at the time only to flake out when it comes calling? Because you actually weren't fully present when you made the promise. Do not promise anything you will not back-up, ever. There are answers beyond yes and no. You are rightfully able to say...

  "Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.” – Rumi    I wrote a piece called 'The Job Myth' a few years back, and it still holds true today, especially now as people start realizing that many jobs can be done from home, that the future of work and success is no longer attached to climbing a corporate ladder, and that many businesses can be created/sustained without all the money on rent for brick-and-mortar locations and employee wages staffing those stores.    This is not meant for those who choose long term careers as genuine interests in study and occupations requiring intense education, but even so, people change their minds about what they want to do all the time. No one is stuck, unless they believe they are. Here it goes:    It is not your job’s fault that you’re unfulfilled.   Don’t blame your job. Why don’t you work for or at something you love?   Answer that. Do ...